Male sexual arousal is a complex process. It includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological readiness for sex, anticipation of pleasure and immediate physiological response of the body. How this process happens in guys and how to speed up arousal is useful for every woman to know.
Where does it all begin?
The onset of arousal is determined by various sensory stimuli. The girl's smell, her kisses and touches, her appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate the centers in the brain, which transmit a signal to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. dr. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and the fourth part-time director of the Kinsey Institute for Sexual Research, claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree of arousal of a man. This conclusion was made as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of Sexual Arousal".
This results in an erection. It is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent venous outflow, as a result of which the penis becomes hard, increases (on average 3-4 times), pulsation is felt. Often, such a reaction occurs within seconds of sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, the erection can weaken and strengthen again - this is completely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study involving 20, 000 men. Their genital dimensions were measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it turned out that the average size of the penis at rest is 9. 16 cm, and during erection - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erection. One of them - the night (spontaneous) - takes place without sexual overtones. The other two are related to male sexual arousal.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - takes place against the background of excitation of brain centers. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord, then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex - appears when touching the penis. Because this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even light touches can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to an erection, a man's heart rate increases, his breathing increases, and his blood pressure increases (as does half of the population). The scrotum thickens and may become denser, and the testicles rise. The upper part of the body becomes slightly red. Lubricating fluid is released, which facilitates the movement of sperm through the canal.
What turns men on?
Along with a beautiful picture (naked woman, or dressed in lacy underwear, dancing, seductive lying, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it so that the arousal is as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to please a guy is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Abdomen (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Foreplay usually starts with kisses. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and put a guy in the right mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips, in addition, he feels the sexuality of his partner and anticipates the upcoming sex. At this time, the nape of the neck can be caressed with hands, this area is also very sensitive. Many men like to have their earlobes kissed and bitten, but you have to be careful with this, as there are those who absolutely do not like this process.
The lower abdomen is a great place to caress before oral sex (from the navel down). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, this can be done not only with hands, but also with lips, hair and bare chest.
Everything is clear with the genitals - any movements in this area are welcome and cause sexual arousal in men. You should be careful of sudden movements; guys may fear for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual techniques - all this increases the desire of the partner. The most intimate areas include the inner thighs, which can be stroked with the hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, because this process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not occur quickly for all men, and it should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you will be aroused first psychologically and then physically. But how it happens is a question little known to most people. What does science say? She believes that arousal is a physiological sexual response.
Or rather, its first phase. That is, a whole series of processes. They have no gender differences: increased breathing and heartbeat, the appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, redness and goosebumps, as well as nipple erection.
With sexual arousal, psychological behavior, changes in look and voice. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act on the body like medicine. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, the rise of the scrotum to the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as the release of pre-ejaculate to lubricate the head.
In women, there is additional lubrication, thinning or, on the contrary, enlargement of the labia minora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), erection of the clitoris, lifting and enlargement of the uterus, tension of the pubic-sacral muscles, length of the vagina.
By the way, if reddening of the skin is observed in men in rare cases, then in women, blood flow occurs not only in the clitoris and labia, but also in the chest and back. For some women, this flush is so noticeable that the area between the chest to the shoulders and neck may even turn red during and after orgasm.
Why are there so many reactions? They are related to the influx of blood, which the body makes to achieve greater sensitivity of the genitals, and readiness for the second phase of the cycle of sexual reactions - sexual intercourse. After the arousal phase there are: the plateau phase (sexual act), the orgasm phase and the phase of completion of sexual responses.
The arousal phase may not occur. It is often a physical rather than a psychological problem. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder when the strength of the erection is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is related to the organic form due to various diseases. The most common causes are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of the blood supply to the organs and the hormonal level are disturbed.
With some diseases, bad habits, the use of certain drugs, especially those that affect the central nervous system, and a sedentary lifestyle, the blood flow in the pelvic organs is weakened, so the main reaction of a man's sexual arousal does not occur - the filling of the cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical, but also the psychological state, so impotence changes from an organic form to a mixed one. You cannot delay this situation, it can be easily corrected in the beginning. You should see a urologist or a sex therapist.
Men are sexually aroused much more often than they reach orgasm. Prolonged abstinence can cause serious damage to the body in general and the genitals in particular. The favorite motto of women "we will disturb you and not let you" is good in moderation - such entertainment should not be overused. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical, but also mental health. The man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is practically no difference in how it is obtained - during sexual intercourse or masturbation.